About Me

The person behind these words

My name is Alex. I'm in my late twenties. I work in marketing, live in a city that costs too much, and have a complicated relationship with running that has become, against all odds, genuinely enjoyable.

I'm not a therapist. I'm not a relationship coach. I don't have a degree in psychology or certification in anything related to love, heartbreak, or human connection. I have zero professional qualifications for giving anyone advice about their relationship.

What I have is a story.

The Short Version

I was in a three-year relationship. It ended. I was devastated. I made every mistake. I found a therapist. I did the work. Four months later, I got my ex back. We're together now, happier than before, because we both changed in the ways that mattered.

The long version is on this site — in my story, in the complete timeline, in the journal entries I wrote in real time during the worst months of my life.

Why I Built This Site

When I was going through the breakup, I searched the internet for someone — anyone — who'd been through what I was going through. Someone who could tell me what it actually felt like. What actually worked. Whether there was hope.

Most of what I found was garbage. Clickbait articles written by people who'd clearly never had their heart broken. Manipulative “get your ex back” programs that treated relationships like conquests. Generic advice that sounded reasonable and helped no one.

I wanted something honest. Something raw. Something that said: yes, this is terrible, and yes, it can get better, and here is exactly what that looked like for one real person.

After I got back together with my ex, I looked at the months of journal entries I'd accumulated and realized I had a complete record. A map of the territory. So I turned it into this site.

What This Site Is

This is a personal blog. One person's experience, documented honestly. It is not professional advice. It is not a guarantee that what worked for me will work for you. Every relationship is different, every breakup has its own dynamics, and the only person qualified to give you personalized guidance is a licensed therapist who knows your specific situation.

What I can offer is my story. The raw journal entries from the worst nights. The practical lessons I learned through failure and therapy. The mistakes I made so you can try to avoid them. And the honest acknowledgment that this process is painful, messy, uncertain, and worth documenting.

A Note on Privacy

My ex knows about this site. She's read everything on it. She's okay with it existing, with the understanding that some details have been slightly altered to protect our privacy. The emotional arc is completely accurate. The specific events happened. Some identifying details have been changed.

I use “Alex” rather than my full name for the same reason. This story is personal enough without being fully public.

What I Believe

Based on everything I went through, I believe a few things that inform this site:

• Breakups can be catalysts for genuine transformation — not in a silver-lining platitude way, but in a real, painful, valuable way.
• Therapy is essential, not optional. No article — including mine — is a substitute for professional help.
• Manipulation doesn't work.Tricks, tactics, and games might produce short-term results but they don't create lasting reconciliation. Only genuine change does.
• Not every relationship should be saved. I wrote about this in is it worth getting your ex back. Some endings are right. Honoring that possibility is important.
• The growth matters more than the outcome. Whether your ex comes back or not, the person you become through this process is worth becoming.

Contact

I read messages from people going through breakups. I can't respond to everyone, and I can't offer personalized advice — I'm not qualified for that. But I hear you. And I want you to know that the fact you're reading, searching, trying to understand — that's the first step. It's the step I took when I was sitting on my kitchen floor at 2 AM, and it led to everything else.

You're going to be okay. I mean that.

— Alex

Please read my disclaimer for important information about the nature of this site and its content.